富豪女的苦恼
著名的“豪门艳女”希尔顿女继承人帕里斯•希尔顿与希腊船王亿万家产的继承人帕里斯-阿齐斯宣布订婚。美艳性感的帕里斯显然悟到了豪门婚姻不易,最终还是选择了门当户对,让我们这些期望看见七仙女配牛郎,花魁娘子下嫁卖油郎故事的人失望了。大概这样的爱情早就不时髦了吧。帕里斯在谈到她的爱情时说:这是我有生以来第一次不用担心被人利用。说的是实在的辛酸话,但同时我也不免为富贵女的心胸叹气。
既然是富豪,首先就要弄明白钱的真实意义。富贵人最大的烦恼就是身边没有可以信赖的人。记得那年克林顿丑闻最艰难的一个晚上,电视台访问了克林顿的一个密友。他说,总统现在恐怕是全世界最孤独的一个人,他只剩下身边的狗了。
存了“患得患失”的心态,有钱没钱都过得没意思,既便是爱情,也要给予得慷慨。富人的爱情越是不容易,就越是要大方地施与。若整天觉得身边个个都是骗财骗色的,活得兢兢战战,唯恐被人利用欺骗,那这得来的财富哪里能带给你乐趣呢?倒不如千金散尽,买来欢笑。其实开悟的富豪也乐得花钱给人骗一骗的。整天捂着钱袋,倒小家子气了。千金只为买一笑,我若是富豪女,就希望整天被帅哥美女们骗来骗去,就为买他们一声媚笑。
智慧的富人是可以解脱的,怎么解脱呢?就是当个大傻瓜,让全世界的人来骗我。若我是富豪女,爱上了哪个小骗子,我就心甘情愿,闭着眼睛给他骗。朱丽叶说过:
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
我的爱海那样宽广,我的爱海一样深沉
我给予的越多,我就越是富有
因为两者皆是无穷无尽
当然你会说,因为你还不是富贵女,所以没资格讲这样的话。孔夫子言:素富贵,行乎富贵,素贫贱,行乎贫贱;素夷狄,行乎夷狄。富贵女而无富贵行相,与贫贱也差不多了。
好几年前的一个冬天,我到一个朋友家作客,引用了这首诗。当年这位朋友曾有一句名言:我不会跟我爱的女人在一起,而是跟爱我的人结婚。那时他处在事业的顶峰,新婚燕尔。他当年嘲笑我的态度,说你知道罗米欧、朱丽叶当年说这些话是多大的年龄吗?14、5岁左右。我们在14、5岁的时候也说过这样的话。
最近,他的生活发生了很大很大的变化,很多的挫折和重创,受到了一般人想象不到的欺骗和陷害。他信佛了,翻译了大量的佛经。我为他高兴。最近他一直在跟我讲:要无条件地爱别人。始终如一地相信这世界上没有一个坏人。
看来,九九归一,我们终究要回到14岁时的信仰。
- Re: 富豪女的苦衷posted on 07/07/2005
昨晚也读到一句 (from Howards End, E.M. Forster)
... You remember how he would trust strangers, and if they fooled him he would say: "It's better to be fooled than to be suspicious"--that the confidence trick is the work of man, but the want-of-confidence trick is the work of the devil. - posted on 07/07/2005
既然是富豪,首先就要弄明白钱的真实意义。大多的富人最大的烦恼就是身边没有可以信赖的人。但智慧的富人是可以解脱的,怎么解脱呢?就是当个大傻瓜,让全世界的人来骗我。
我不是不理解他们,而是太理解了。记得那年克林顿丑闻最艰难的一个晚上,电视台访问了克林顿的一个密友。他说,总统现在恐怕是全世界最孤独的一个人,他只剩下身边的狗了。
我若是富豪女,爱上了哪个小骗子,我就心甘情愿,闭着眼睛给他骗。朱丽叶说过:
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
我的爱海那样宽广,我的爱海一样深沉
我给予的越多,我就越是富有
因为两者皆是无穷无尽
好几年前的一个冬天,我到一个朋友家作客,引用了这首诗。当年这位朋友曾有一句名言:我不会跟我爱的女人在一起,而是跟爱我的人结婚。那时他处在事业的顶峰,而且新婚。
他当年嘲笑我的态度,说你知道罗米欧、朱丽叶当年说这些话是多大的年龄吗?14、5岁。我们在14。5岁的时候也说过这样的话。
最近,他的生活发生了很大很大的变化,很多的挫折和重创,受到了一般人想象不到的欺骗和陷害。他信佛了,翻译了大量的佛经。我为他高兴。最近他一直在跟我讲:要无条件地爱别人。始终如一地相信这世界上没有一个坏人。
看来,九九归一,我们终究要回到14岁时的信仰。
阿姗引的话也不错的。到了我现在这样的境界,应该离魔鬼不远了。
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昨晚也读到一句 (from Howards End, E.M. Forster)
... You remember how he would trust strangers, and if they fooled him he would say: "It's better to be fooled than to be suspicious"--that the confidence trick is the work of man, but the want-of-confidence trick is the work of the devil. - Re: 富豪女的苦衷posted on 07/18/2005
Somebody already tried that: "the poor little rich girl" Barbara Hutton spent all her life doing just that, still she couldn't buy herself any happiness.
玛雅 wrote:
我若是富豪女,爱上了哪个小骗子,我就心甘情愿,闭着眼睛给他骗。 - Re: 富豪女的苦衷posted on 07/18/2005
Susan wrote:
Somebody already tried that: "the poor little rich girl" Barbara Hutton spent all her life doing just that, still she couldn't buy herself any happiness.
玛雅 wrote:
我若是富豪女,爱上了哪个小骗子,我就心甘情愿,闭着眼睛给他骗。
可见barbara Hutton不仅只想买几声媚笑,还想要点别的,那她不快乐是太贪心的缘故。
千金买一笑,就是富豪女该得到的爱情了,还不满足?我们穷人还要辛苦挣钱去买笑,或者卖笑去挣钱呢。 - posted on 07/19/2005
为方便大家了解Barbara Hutton,这是有关她的介绍,的确是富人里的苦命人。不过她的不快乐完全是童年的阴影造成的,并不是因为慷慨地施与爱情和金钱。她这样精神受过创伤的很难很难有持久平静的快乐的。她需要一个精神上完全支持的,emotionly完全付出的。 gary grant人漂亮,心肠也好,可惜还是不行。
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From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.
Barbara Hutton, born November 14, 1912 in New York City, United States – died May 11, 1979 in Los Angeles, California, was a wealthy American socialite dubbed by the media as the "Poor Little Rich Girl" because of her troubled life.
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Barbara Hutton
Barbara Hutton was the only child of Edna Woolworth (1883-1918) who was the daughter of Frank W. Woolworth, the founder of the enormously successful Woolworth department store chain. Barbara's father was Franklyn Laws Hutton (1877-1940), a wealthy co-founder of the respected E. F. Hutton & Company, a New York Investment banking and stock brokerage conglomerate. She was a niece by marriage of cereal heiress Marjorie Merriweather Post and a first cousin of the actress-heiress Dina Merrill (née Nedenia Hutton).
Born into a highly dysfunctional family, Barbara Hutton's father was a notorious philanderer whose conduct drove her mother to suicide when Barbara was only six years old. After her mother's death, her father wanted nothing to do with raising a child and she was shuffled between various relatives, raised by a governess. She became an introverted child who had limited interaction with other children her own age. Her closest friend and only confidante was her homosexual cousin Jimmy Donahue, the son of her mother's sister. Donahue grew up to become a personable and charming member of the first "jet-set" crowd of the 1950s who befriended the Duke and Duchess of Windsor. In his 2000 book, Dancing With the Devil: the Windsors and Jimmy Donohue, author Christopher Wilson tells a much-debated story of a sexual relationship between a 35-year-old Donahue and the then 54-year-old Duchess.
In accordance with New York's high society traditions, at age 18 Barbara Hutton was given a lavish débutante ball where guests from the Astor and Rockefeller families, amongst other elites, were entertained by stars such as Rudy Vallee and Maurice Chevalier. Three years later, on her 21st birthday, Barbara Hutton inherited close to 50 million dollars from her mother's estate, an enormous amount of money at the time. Her inheritance made her one of the wealthiest women in the world and the target for every fortune hunter around.
Portrayed in the press as the "lucky" young woman who had it all, the public had no idea of the psychological problems she lived with that led to a life of victimization and abuse. Barbara Hutton married seven times:
1. 1933 – Alexis Zakharovitch Mdivani, a so-called Russian prince, divorced 1935;
2. 1935 - Count Curt Heinrich Eberhard Erdmann Georg von Haugwitz-Hardenberg-Reventlow, divorced 1938;
3. 1942 – Cary Grant, divorced 1945;
4. 1947 - Prince Igor Nicolaeivitch Troubetzkoy, divorced 1947;
5. 1953 – Porfirio Rubirosa, divorced 1954;
6. 1955 - Baron Gottfried Alexander Maximilian Walter Kurt von Cramm, divorced 1959;
7. 1964 - Prince Pierre Raymond Doan Vinh na Champassak, divorced 1966.
Her first two husbands had their own dysfunctional backgrounds and could not deal with the needy girl. They used her great wealth to their advantage, especially the extremely abusive Curt Haugwitz-Reventlow with whom she had her only child, a son named Lance. Curt Reventlow dominated her through verbal and physical abuse that escalated to a savage beating that left her hospitalized and him in jail. Hutton's divorce gave her custody of their son, and like her father had done to her, she left the raising of Lance Reventlow to a governess and private boarding schools. The physical and sexual abuse led to drug abuse and Hutton developed anorexia nervosa which would plague her for the rest of her life. Her need for gratification led to an addiction to shopping, but like all addictions it only gave her tortured mind temporary relief.
With World War II raging in Europe, Hutton gifted her London mansion Winfield House to the United States government and moved to California. Back home, Hutton became active during the war, giving money to assist the Free French Forces and donating her yacht to the U.S. government. Using her high profile image to sell War bonds, she received positive publicity after being derided by the press as a result of her marriage scandals. In Hollywood, she met and married Cary Grant, one of the biggest movie stars of the day. Grant did not need her money or to benefit from her name and genuinely cared for her. Nevertheless, Cary Grant had his own child abandonment issues which combined with Hutton's addictions led to the failure of this marriage too.
Barbara Hutton left California and moved to Paris, France before acquiring a mansion in trendy Tangier. Hutton then began dating Igor Troubetzkoy, another expatriate Russian prince of very limited means but world renown. In the spring of 1948 in Zurich, Switzerland, she married him. That year, he was the driver of the first Ferrari to ever compete in Grand Prix motor racing when he raced in the Monaco Grand Prix and later won the Targa Florio. For the second time she had married a man who actually loved her and the Prince did everything to help her overcome her addictions but to no avail. He ultimately could not deal with her problems and filed for divorce. Hutton's attempted suicide made headlines around the world. Mocked by the press as the "Poor Little Rich Girl," her life nevertheless made great copy and the media exploited her for consumption by a fascinated public.
Her next husband was the celebrated German tennis star, Baron Gottfried von Cramm. A completely messed up Barbara Hutton sought safety and friendship with the homosexual von Cramm with whom she had been friends for years. This situation could only lead to disaster and they soon divorced. He died, in an automobile crash, near Cairo, Egypt, in 1976.
Barbara Hutton's next marriage lasted 53 days. Porfirio Rubirosa, one of the most notorious of international playboys, only married the vulnerable woman for her wealth and reputation while continuing his affair with the actress Zsa Zsa Gabor. Hutton then met James Douglas, a handsome young American who, though gay, cared for her and managed to get her off drugs and alcohol for a time. (She also had a intense though platonic relationship with another good looking young American, Philip Van Rensselaer.) However, her lavish spending continued, and although already the owner of several mansions around the world, in 1959 she built a luxurious Japanese style palace on a 30 acre (120,000 m²) estate in Cuernavaca, Mexico. For a time she seemed happy but when her neglected 23-year-old son Lance visited and unleashed his anguish over his upbringing, Hutton was unable to cope and reverted to her addictions. (Her son later married the actresses Jill St. John and Cheryl Holdridge, a former Mouseketeer who is now known as Cheryl Reventlow Post.)
Extremely volatile when drinking, Hutton had to be restrained on an airplane flight after which she began suffering from drunken blackouts. No longer caring about public perceptions, she frequently appeared drunk in public and her rash spending continued unabated. Over the years, she had acquired a large collection of valuable jewelry, including elaborate historical pieces that had once belonged to Marie Antoinette and Empress Eugénie of France. In her drunken stupors, Hutton began sleeping with numerous younger men, total strangers to whom she gave money, diamond bracelets and other pieces of expensive jewelry.
In Tangier, she fell victim to her seventh husband, Raymond Doan, for whom she bought an Laotian title. (Other sources indicate that his title came through his late-in-life adoption by the head of the Champassak family, deposed Indochinese royalty.) His sole motive was to get at her wealth which by then had shrunk considerably from years of reckless spending. This marriage, too, was short lived.
The 1972 death of her son in an airplane crash sent Barbara Hutton into a state of permanent drunken despair. Her fortune had shrunk to the point where she began liquidating assets in order to raise funds to live on. Nonetheless, she continued to spend money on strangers willing to pay a little attention to her. A pathetic Barbara Hutton spent her final years living at the Beverly Hills Hotel where she wasted away to little more than a skeleton. She died bedridden in November of 1979 and was interred in the Woolworth family mausoleum at Woodlawn Cemetery in the Bronx, New York.
Over the years, numerous books have been written about Barbara Hutton the best known of which are:
* Poor Little Rich Girl: The Life and Legend of Barbara Hutton by C. David Heymann
* Million Dollar Baby: An Intimate Portrait of Barbara Hutton by Philip Van Rensselaer
In 1987 a television motion picture titled Poor Little Rich Girl: The Barbara Hutton Story starred Farrah Fawcett in the role of Barbara Hutton.
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