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几年前读过杨绛写的《我们仨》,读到女儿钱瑗去世的时候,我就落泪了。但我还是在悲伤中体验到了一种难以形容的幸福,人总是要死的,有家如钱家,此生足矣。钱钟书是我奉为至尊的学术人,杨绛是我喜欢的女性之一,他们的知识家庭是一种无法摹制的经典。喜欢他们的家庭,不等于就看低了自己的市民俗世生活家庭,女儿出生以后,幸福的空气一直氤氲在我和小雅的家里,从未消散过。女儿的出生,似乎让我们的家庭生活有了脱胎换骨的感觉,这是以前从未想到过的。
一、女儿病了
几天前在空调房里吃饭,带着女儿去的,吹着了凉,结果感冒。这次感冒很厉害,延续了四、五天也不好。女儿发高烧,一会儿高温一会儿正常的。
女儿病了,一到下班时间我就急着赶回家,一天不见的女儿不知道什么样子了。在女儿和我之间,有一条无形的线,女儿用这条线紧紧地拉住我。这条线是父爱女之情,上帝给的。昨晚下了班车,三步并作两步,赶紧回到家。之前,小雅已电话告知我女儿体温恢复了正常,我都放下心了。女儿是睡了一下午的,刚刚醒过来,小雅正在把着她小便,看见在她身前弯腰的我,勉强地笑了一下。我这才看见,女儿脸上都是泪迹,因为药物的作用,眼角有了很多白色的分泌物。可怜的女儿,心就一下子给揪起来了。
做父亲的,最受不了的就是看到女儿遭受痛苦的折磨。女儿不会讲话,我们无从知晓她哪里难过,女儿只是用哭声来代表一切。
几天来,最操劳的还是小雅。女儿的状态忽好忽坏,高烧的时候常常是在后半夜发作。我都是在睡熟的时候,忽然听见小雅喊我,“快起来,看看,孩子烧得不得了。”只要是听到女儿的任何消息,神经会在一秒钟之内完全清醒,一下子坐起来,打开灯,找体温计。女儿在与病毒做着激烈的斗争,向左翻身,然后向右翻身,身上很热,不停地抽泣。这样的情况下,女儿都是要躺在小雅的怀里才会安生,女儿把母亲的怀抱当作最安全的港湾,入了小雅的怀,女儿的哭声就减弱了。小雅悠着女儿,十几分钟,或者半个小时以上,女儿才昏昏睡过去。这样的后半夜,城市一片宁静,只有远处街道上偶尔传来的一两声车鸣。女儿小脸红扑扑的,两条小腿也不时地朝向空中蹬几下,我和小雅都要等她完全睡熟了才关灯。在灯下看自己的女儿,越看越爱,越看越心疼,如果能把女儿身上所有的病都长在我身上,我也情愿。但我和小雅都知道,生病是每个孩子成长的必经过程,克服磨难之后,孩子才会成长得更好。
这是女儿生下来之后第二次生病,和第一次生病一样,我依旧不主张去医院看医生。我对医生极其强烈地不信任,如果去了医院,情况大同小异,基本还是这样的:医生左问右问,再捅咕捅咕孩子,然后就是填单子开药打点滴。打静点见效快,但是副作用太大,孩子很容易就产生药物依赖,打了第一次,第二次再生病,就得接着点了。
人生路上坎坷不断,生了病都是小事儿,我希望女儿的病快好起来。女儿完全健康的时候,可喜欢和我玩了。我在地上跳舞给她,她看着我哈哈大笑;我抱着她在地上跳舞,她就紧贴着我的脸紧抓着我的肩膀;我做鬼脸给她,她躺在床上乐不可支,手脚乱蹬。小雅说,女儿长大了会粘着我,我也期望着女儿能粘着我,我要教她学习英文,朗诵诗歌,阅读文章,我要带她去天涯海角。
2007/8/10
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 08/10/2007
看到宝宝生病,做父母真是心疼死了。希望你家宝宝快点好。
你们在把小便吗?是不是很早就训练宝宝大小便了?美国好象没做这个的,可能是家长太懒。
我要教儿子学习中文,朗诵唐诗,阅读文章,带他去中国。哈哈。:)
我要教她学习英文,朗诵诗歌,阅读文章,我要带她去天涯海角。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 08/10/2007
祝穆清的并快好,这样我就可以看到她的照片了.
qinggang,人家杨降是身边两口人都走了后才写<我们三>的,你现在就动笔,估计得写50年,马拉松跑啊!加油! - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 08/10/2007
xirui wrote:
qinggang,人家杨降是身边两口人都走了后才写<我们三>的,你现在就动笔,估计得写50年,马拉松跑啊!加油!
不过千万别让我再活50年,那就都成老妖怪了。能凑活活到60岁,就给自己打120分。哈哈。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 08/10/2007
只活到60岁?难道你不想看你的穆清长大做妈妈?不想看看你的小外孙小外孙女?看着他们快乐长大?:) 青冈加油!
qinggang wrote:
不过千万别让我再活50年,那就都成老妖怪了。能凑活活到60岁,就给自己打120分。哈哈。 - posted on 08/12/2007
2、看病
我刚在单位吃完午餐。小雅突然来电话,“你看咋办吧?我同事给我打电话,她家孩子也是一样的病,开始也不去医院,挺了一个礼拜,最后到儿童医院一检查,说是肺炎早期,又打了一个礼拜的吊针才好。刚才女儿的温度又升上来了,还是去医院吧,耽误了就完了。”
碰巧和我一起走的一个朋友家里也有小孩,赶忙问情况,“说说什么样?”
我就报告,“高烧时断时续,还腹泻,也咳嗽,都有三、四天了。”
朋友就说,“那赶快去医院,真要是耽搁出肺炎你就麻烦了。”
我想了想也对,赶忙给小雅回电话,“那就赶快去儿童医院吧,没办法了。”
那天下午我上班,单位没人在,我也走不开,就不能去医院。小雅、爸爸和妈妈带着女儿去了医院,后来小雅说排了好长的队,医生看过后,先给孩子验血,女儿也没接触过针,一扎就大哭起来,抽了大半管子血,小雅心疼得不得了。抽完了血,又做皮试。女儿各项指标都好,不过敏,医生就给开了药,要打点滴,其中包括最厉害的药物之一先锋。
下班后就去医院,那时候点滴还没有开打,要打针的孩子太多了,等候室里连闲地方都没有了。平时看不见哪个孩子有病,到了医院,不得了,怎么这么多孩子有病?等了好一会儿,女儿一会儿哭一会儿闹的,到了打针的时候,居然好起来。小雅把女儿放在点滴床上,女儿蹬着小腿,还跟我们笑。我看见护士把三小瓶药水挂起来,心里咯噔一下,婴儿的针都要扎在脑袋上,我确实心疼。我犹疑了一下,“小雅,咱这点滴不打行不行?就非得打点滴么?”护士见到我们犹豫,就说,“你们家里先商量好了,再说。去找医生再问问吧。”小雅又抱起孩子,我们一起去找门口值班的医生,医生看了病历,说,“这孩子病得太严重了,一定得打点滴。你们要是决定不打,后果你们自负。”医生这么一说,我就六神无主了,毕竟我不是医生。我就怕别人把女儿的病往严重了说,未来的事情都是不可预期的,万一严重了,后悔药买不来。”没办法,就去打吧。
女儿放在点滴台上,依旧乐,大眼睛眨啊眨的,小手还要去抓那点滴管。护士让小雅把住女儿上身,爸爸压住女儿双腿,然后她用剃刀把女儿额头的头发刮光一些便于寻找血管,女儿依旧毫无所知。护士把细针扎进女儿的额头,女儿哇地大哭起来,我看小雅眼里都有泪珠的样子,我也难过,女儿头上的血有一股逆进了点滴管,鲜红鲜红的,护士打开了开关,瓶子里的药水一滴一滴地流进女儿的身体。当晚直到近十点才点滴完,一家人都十分疲惫。
有了第一天的经验,周六上午去得早一些,内科又换了医生给看病。医生看完了女儿的外在表现,又拿着听诊器前前后后比划几下,最后照旧开单子打点滴。二上点滴台,女儿依旧不知道做什么,还是笑。又换了一个护士,这次扎了半天,才扎进头皮里。女儿哇哇大哭。等拿着瓶子进了观察室,发现点滴管里的药水不流动,招呼了值班护士进来,值班护士说得重新来过。我的火气一下子就冒出来,这么小的孩子,怎么能抵抗连扎两次?爸爸示意我不要乱说话。我就说护士工作不认真,小孩子的头皮不是用来试验的。没办法,再次去扎,说什么不能用刚才的那个护士,换了一个护士,一下子就成功,女儿再次大哭,我看得心疼极了。女儿哭得脸上都是泪,让人揪心。
已经连续打了三天了。医生说还要继续观察,并且还建议让到呼吸科去看看。病这个东西很神奇,一个医生一种说法,我真怕每次都给不同的医生看病。第一天医生给看病,说怕女儿得“败血症”,爸爸听成了“白血病”,心情沮丧极了,一直说孙女不该得这样的病,晚上到了凌晨三点还睡不着觉。第二天我们都给他讲,他才明白过来。
用了药,女儿的病情果然大有好转,脸上的笑容越来越多。得病这几天,女儿瘦了一些,小雅也瘦了一些。小雅爱女儿已到了极致的地步,差不多把全身心都交给女儿。我看见小雅抱着女儿哄她逗她,心里面有说不出来的感动。小雅用尽了自己的时间,节约出了我的时间,我能读书,还能写字,功劳全部归功于小雅。我家庭里的幸福,源泉也都在小雅身上。我对许多朋友说,男人一辈子选什么行业根本就不是大问题,男人头等的问题就是选什么样的女人做妻子。一个家庭,尽管常说男人是山,但实际上女人才是家庭的关键。有什么样的女人,就有什么样的家庭。
要出差了,女儿的病还没痊愈。走到哪里,我都会念着她们两个。
2007/8/12
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 08/12/2007
病得那么严重啊!抱抱宝宝,宝宝小雅。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 08/16/2007
pray - posted on 09/06/2007
国内现在这么给儿童(还有大人)动不动就打吊针,很不负责任的.国外哪有那么多打吊针的?
对于common cold,根本就不需要这样治的,这样危险很大.国外小孩发烧,不超过38.3度根本不需要看医生,自己在家里吃一点专门给小孩的减轻症状的药就可以,如果烧得厉害,少穿点衣服,用冰袋放在额头,或者洗个冷水澡.如果超过38.3度,可以去看医生.医生主要是看看有没有鼻涕流到耳朵,是否会引起中耳炎,或是是否肺部有问题.一般感冒的话,国外医生也就开些减轻症状的药,最多发炎给些小孩吃的抗生素.一般感冒至少七天到十天才会好.而且有时侯不吃药,到了第十天也自然而然会好的.小孩感冒尤其不可怕,西方医生认为小孩多感冒,可以增强抵抗力,建立起自身的免疫力.预防感冒最好的方法是多洗手.
抗生素发明时间不长,种类也不多,如果吃多了,会产生抗体,以后再生病就没有用了.
最近国内卫生部说,中国小孩在一些大城市的好医院里,90%对抗生素产生抗药性.这对小孩来说非常不利.这样子长期的话,谁知道二三十年后会怎样的健康情况.
见<滥用注射是严重的医疗陋习> http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_4de0699f01000ait.html
另外,这里有一篇比较科学的对付common cold的文章:
Introduction
A common cold is an infection of your upper respiratory tract. It's relatively harmless — but it usually doesn't feel that way. If it's not a runny nose, sore throat and cough, it's watery eyes, sneezing and congestion. Or maybe all of the above. In fact, because any one of more than 200 viruses can cause a common cold, symptoms tend to vary greatly.
Unfortunately, if you're like most adults, you're likely to have a common cold two to four times a year. Children, especially preschoolers, may have a common cold as many as eight to 10 times annually.
The good news is that you or your child should be feeling better in about a week or so. If symptoms of a common cold aren't improving in that time, see your doctor to make sure you don't have a bacterial infection in your lungs, sinuses or ears.
Signs and symptoms
Symptoms of a common cold usually appear about one to three days after exposure to a cold virus. Signs and symptoms of a common cold may include:
Runny or stuffy nose
Itchy or sore throat
Cough
Congestion
Slight body aches or a mild headache
Sneezing
Watery eyes
Low-grade fever (up to 102 F)
Mild fatigue
The discharge from your nose may become thicker and yellow or green in color as a common cold runs its course. What makes a cold different from other viral infections is that you generally won't have a high fever. You're also unlikely to experience significant fatigue from a common cold.
Causes
Although more than 200 viruses can cause a common cold, the rhinovirus is the most common culprit, and it's highly contagious.
A cold virus enters your body through your mouth or nose, but it's likely you also had a "hand" in your own illness. The virus can spread through droplets in the air when someone who is sick coughs, sneezes or talks. But it also spreads by hand-to-hand contact with someone who has a cold or by using shared objects, such as utensils, towels, toys or telephones. Touch your eyes, nose or mouth after such contact or exposure, and you're likely to "catch" a cold.
Risk factors
Children are especially susceptible to common colds because they haven't yet developed resistance to most of the viruses that cause them. But an immature immune system isn't the only thing that makes kids vulnerable. They also tend to spend lots of time with other children and aren't always careful about washing their hands and covering their coughs and sneezes.
As you age, you develop immunity to many of the viruses that cause common colds. You'll have colds less frequently than you did as a child, though you can still come down with a cold when you're exposed to cold viruses, have an allergic reaction that affects your nasal passages or have a weakened immune system.
Both children and adults are more susceptible to colds in fall and winter, when children are in school and most people are spending a lot of time indoors. In places where there is no winter, colds are more frequent in the rainy season.
Other beliefs about how you catch a common cold — such as going outdoors with wet hair or getting chilled — are starting to be seriously studied. In a small study at the Common Cold Centre in Wales, scientists tested 180 healthy volunteers. Half submerged their bare feet in ice water for 20 minutes, and half stayed dry. Within five days, nearly one-third of the chilled participants developed sore throats and runny noses, whereas only 9 percent of their warmer counterparts did.
Some researchers theorize that cold constricts blood vessels in the nose, slowing the white cells that fight infection and disrupting the first-line defense against germs. And with reduced immunity, dormant infections are more likely to develop into full-blown colds. This theory isn't universally accepted by any means. Many researchers insist that colds are more common in winter because people spend more time indoors where germs spread easily.
When to seek medical advice
Seek medical attention if you have:
Fever of 102 F or higher
High fever accompanied by achiness and fatigue
Fever accompanied by sweating, chills and a cough with colored phlegm
Symptoms that get worse instead of better or last more than about 10 days
In general, children are sicker with a common cold than adults are and often develop complications such as ear infections. Your child doesn't need to see the doctor for a routine common cold. But seek medical attention right away if your child has any of the following signs or symptoms:
Fever of 103 F or higher, chills or sweating
Fever that lasts more than 72 hours
Vomiting or abdominal pain
Unusual sleepiness
Severe headache
Difficulty breathing
Persistent crying
Ear pain
Persistent cough
Complications
Acute ear infection (otitis media). The most frequent complication of common colds in children, ear infections occur when bacteria infiltrate the space behind the eardrum. Typical signs and symptoms include earaches and, in some cases, a green or yellow discharge from the nose or the return of a fever following a common cold. Children who are too young to verbalize their distress may simply cry or pull on the affected ear.
Wheezing. A cold can trigger wheezing in children with asthma.
Sinusitis. In adults or children, a common cold that doesn't resolve may lead to sinusitis — inflammation and infection of the sinuses.
Other secondary infections. These include strep throat (streptococcal pharyngitis), pneumonia, chronic bronchitis in adults and croup in children. These infections need to be treated by a doctor.
Treatment
There's no cure for the common cold. Antibiotics are of no use against cold viruses. Over-the-counter (OTC) cold preparations won't cure a common cold or make it go away any sooner, and most have side effects. Here's a look at the pros and cons of some common cold remedies.
Pain relievers. For fever, sore throat and headache, many people turn to acetaminophen (Tylenol, others) or other mild pain relievers. Keep in mind that acetaminophen can cause liver damage, especially if taken frequently or in larger-than-recommended doses. Be especially careful when giving acetaminophen to children; the dosing guidelines can be confusing. For instance, the infant drop formulation is three times as concentrated as the syrup commonly used in older children. Never give aspirin to children. It may have a role in causing Reye's syndrome — a rare but potentially fatal illness.
Decongestant nasal sprays. Adults shouldn't use decongestant drops or sprays for more than a few days because prolonged use can cause chronic inflammation of the mucous membranes. And children shouldn't use decongestant drops or sprays at all. There's little evidence that they work in young children, and they may cause side effects.
Cough syrups. In winter, nonprescription cough syrups practically fly off the drugstore shelves. But the American College of Chest Physicians strongly discourages the use of these medications because they're not effective at treating the underlying cause of cough due to colds. Some contain ingredients that may alleviate coughing, but the amounts are too small to do much good and may actually be harmful for children. In fact, the college recommends against using OTC cough syrups or cold medicines for any child younger than age 14. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention warns against giving cough and cold medicines to children younger than age 2. For young children, an accidental overdose could be fatal. Coughs associated with a cold usually last less than two to three weeks. If a cough lingers longer than that, see your doctor.
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Prevention
Because so many different viruses can cause a common cold, no effective vaccine has been developed. But you can take some common-sense precautions to slow the spread of cold viruses:
Wash your hands. Clean your hands thoroughly and often, and teach your children the importance of hand washing. Carry a bottle of alcohol-based hand rub containing at least 60 percent alcohol for times when soap and water aren't available. These gels kill most germs, and are safe for older children to use themselves.
Scrub your stuff. Keep kitchen and bathroom countertops clean, especially when someone in your family has a common cold. Wash children's toys after play.
Use tissues. Always sneeze and cough into tissues. Discard used tissues right away, and then wash your hands carefully. Teach children to sneeze or cough into the bend of their elbow when they don't have a tissue. That way they cover their mouth without using their hands.
Be a little selfish. Don't share drinking glasses or utensils with other family members. Use your own glass or disposable cups when you or someone else is sick.
Steer clear of colds. Avoid close, prolonged contact with anyone who has a cold.
Choose your childcare center wisely. Look for a childcare setting with sound hygiene practices and clear policies about keeping sick children at home.
Consider the alternatives. Whether therapies such as vitamin C, zinc and echinacea relieve cold symptoms remains controversial. But the latest research seems to show that moderate doses of vitamin C can shorten the duration of a cold and that zinc nasal sprays or lozenges taken at the beginning of a cold may help reduce symptoms.
Self-care
You may not be able to cure your common cold, but you can make yourself as comfortable as possible. These tips may help:
Drink lots of fluids. Water, juice, tea and warm soup are all good choices. Avoid alcohol, caffeine and cigarette smoke, which can cause dehydration and aggravate your symptoms.
Try chicken soup. Generations of parents have spooned chicken soup into their sick children. Now scientists have put chicken soup to the test, discovering that it does seem to help relieve cold and flu symptoms in two ways. First, it acts as an anti-inflammatory by inhibiting the movement of neutrophils — immune system cells that participate in the body's inflammatory response. Second, it temporarily speeds up the movement of mucus through the nose, helping relieve congestion and limiting the amount of time viruses are in contact with the nasal lining. Researchers at the University of Nebraska compared homemade chicken soup with canned versions and found that many, though not all, canned chicken soups worked just as well as soups made from scratch.
Get some rest. Consider staying home from work if you have a fever or a bad cough, or are drowsy from medications. This will give you a chance to rest as well as reduce the chances that you'll infect others. Wear a mask when you have a cold if you live or work with someone with a chronic disease or compromised immune system.
Adjust your room's temperature and humidity. Keep your room warm, but not overheated. If the air is dry, a cool-mist humidifier or vaporizer can moisten the air and help ease congestion and coughing. Be sure to keep the humidifier clean to prevent the growth of bacteria and molds.
Soothe your throat. Gargling with warm salt water several times a day or drinking warm lemon water with honey may help soothe a sore throat and relieve a cough.
Use nasal drops. To help relieve nasal congestion, try saline nasal drops. You can purchase these drops over-the-counter, and they're effective, safe and nonirritating, even for children. To use in babies, instill several drops into one nostril, then immediately bulb suction that nostril. Repeat the process in the opposite nostril. Doing this before feeding your baby will improve your child's ability to nurse or take a bottle.
Cold remedies: What works, what doesn't, what can't hurt
It's a given that there's no cure for the common cold. But what about remedies that claim to make you feel better faster? You may be surprised at what does and doesn't pass the effectiveness test.
Cold remedies are almost as common as the common cold, and many are nearly as ancient. The use of chicken soup as a congestion cure dates back centuries. But is longevity any guarantee that a cold remedy works? Does an effective cold remedy even exist? Here's a look at some common cold remedies, as well as the best ways to ward off illness in the first place.
Cold remedies: What works
If you catch a cold, you can expect to be sick for about a week. But that doesn't mean you have to be miserable. These remedies may help:
Water and other fluids. You can't flush a cold out of your system, but drinking plenty of liquids can help. Water, juice, clear broth or warm lemon water with honey helps loosen congestion and prevents dehydration. Avoid alcohol, coffee and caffeinated sodas, which make dehydration worse.
Salt water. A saltwater gargle — 1/2 teaspoon salt in an 8-ounce glass of warm water — can temporarily relieve a sore or scratchy throat.
Saline nasal sprays. Over-the-counter saline nasal sprays combat stuffiness and congestion. Unlike nasal decongestants, saline sprays don't lead to a rebound effect — a worsening of symptoms when the medication is discontinued — and most are safe and nonirritating, even for children.
Chicken soup. Generations of parents have spooned chicken soup into their sick children. Now scientists have put chicken soup to the test, discovering that it does seem to help relieve cold and flu symptoms in two ways. First, it acts as an anti-inflammatory by inhibiting the movement of neutrophils — immune system cells that participate in the body's inflammatory response. Second, it temporarily speeds up the movement of mucus through the nose, helping relieve congestion and limiting the amount of time viruses are in contact with the nose lining. Researchers at the University of Nebraska compared homemade chicken soup with canned versions and found that many, though not all, canned chicken soups worked just as well as soups made from scratch.
Over-the-counter cold medications. Nonprescription decongestants and pain relievers offer some symptom relief, but they won't prevent a cold or shorten its duration, and most have some side effects. If used for more than a few days, they can actually make symptoms worse. Keep in mind that acetaminophen (Tylenol, others) can cause serious liver damage or liver failure if taken in high doses. It's common for people to take Tylenol in addition to flu medications that also contain acetaminophen, which can lead to drug overdoses. Read the labels of any cold medication carefully to make sure you're not overdosing.
Humidity. Cold viruses thrive in dry conditions — another reason why colds are more common in winter. Parched air also dries the mucous membranes, causing a stuffy nose and scratchy throat. A humidifier can add moisture to your home, but it can also add mold, fungi and bacteria if not cleaned properly. Change the water in your humidifier daily, and clean the unit at least once every three days.
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Cold remedies: What doesn't work
The list of ineffective cold remedies is long. A few of the more common ones that don't work include:
Antibiotics. These destroy bacteria, but they're no help against cold viruses. Avoid asking your doctor for antibiotics for a cold or using old antibiotics you have on hand. You won't get well any faster, and inappropriate use of antibiotics contributes to the serious and growing problem of antibiotic-resistant bacteria.
Antihistamines. Although antihistamines can help the runny nose, watery eyes and sneezing that occur with allergies, they have the opposite effect on cold symptoms, further drying nasal membranes and impeding the flow of mucus.
Over-the-counter (OTC) cough syrups. In winter, nonprescription cough syrups practically fly off the drugstore shelves. But the American College of Chest Physicians strongly discourages the use of these medications because they're not effective at treating the underlying cause of cough due to colds. Some contain ingredients that may alleviate coughing, but the amounts are too small to do much good and may actually be harmful for children. In fact, the college has strongly recommended against using OTC cough syrups or cold medicines for any child younger than 14. Coughs associated with a cold usually last less than three weeks; if a cough lingers longer than that, see your doctor. In the meantime, try soothing your throat with warm lemon water and honey and humidifying the air in your house. Avoid giving honey to infants.
Not eating. Despite the old adage "Starve a cold, feed a fever," there's no evidence that avoiding food shortens a cold's duration or reduces symptoms.
Cold remedies: What probably can't hurt
In spite of ongoing studies, the scientific jury is still out on popular cold remedies such as vitamin C, echinacea and zinc. Here's an update on some common alternative remedies:
Vitamin C. Vitamin C doesn't appear to prevent colds in most people, but taking large doses — up to 5,000 milligrams — at the beginning of a cold may reduce the severity of symptoms. Lower doses — 200 to 300 milligrams — may shorten a cold's duration. Just what constitutes an optimum dose isn't clear, but amounts in excess of 2,000 milligrams a day may cause nausea and diarrhea.
Echinacea. A National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine study released in 2005 found that echinacea did little to prevent or shorten colds. But testing herbs is difficult, and scientists say more research is necessary. Some people swear by Airborne, an herbal cold remedy that's sold over the counter in many drugstores. (research says it not effective)
Zinc. The cold-fighting reputation of zinc has had its ups and downs. (not effective!)That's because many zinc studies — both those that find the mineral beneficial and those that do not — are flawed. In studies with positive results, zinc seemed most effective taken as a lozenge or nasal spray within 24 hours of the onset of symptoms. Taking zinc with food reduced side effects, including a bad taste and nausea.
How colds happen and what you can do about it
Most colds are caused by rhinoviruses, which spread through the air when someone with an infection coughs or sneezes. You can inhale the viruses, but you're more likely to get sick if you touch your eyes, nose or mouth after handling a contaminated object. Telephones, computer keyboards and doorknobs are especially notorious for harboring germs.
Generally, the more you're exposed to cold viruses, the greater your chance of infection; prevailing wisdom has it that colds are prevalent in winter not because it's cold outside — although some new research is challenging this assumption — but because it's so crowded inside. People tend to spend more time indoors during winter and therefore are more likely to share their germs.
But colds aren't inevitable. Scrubbing your hands for at least 15 seconds with ordinary soap and water or using an alcohol-based sanitizer destroys most viruses, which can linger on surfaces for up to 48 hours. And although hand washing remains your best defense against illness, common-sense suggestions such as these also can help:
Use a paper towel rather than a cloth one to dry your hands.
Avoid people who are sick whenever possible, and stay home if you're sick yourself.
Avoid sharing dishes, towels or silverware.
Regularly clean your desk, phone and computer keyboard — at home and at the office — with sanitizing wipes.
Make a serious effort to manage stress, which lowers immunity and may make you more susceptible to illness.
Boost your natural immunity with regular exercise and a healthy diet.
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Cold and flu germs: How long can they survive outside the body?
How long can cold and flu germs live outside the body, such as on doorknobs or computer keyboards?
- Joe / New Jersey
Mayo Clinic infectious disease specialist James Steckelberg, M.D., and colleagues answer select questions from readers.
Answer
The length of time that cold and flu viruses can survive outside the body on an environmental surface varies greatly. But the suspected range is from a few seconds up to 48 hours, depending on the specific virus and the type of surface.
Flu viruses tend to live longer on surfaces than cold viruses. Also, it is generally believed that cold and flu viruses survive for longer periods on nonporous surfaces — such as plastic, metal or wood — than they do on porous surfaces — such as fabric or paper.
Although cold and flu viruses primarily spread from person-to-person contact, they can also spread from contact with contaminated objects or surfaces. The best way to avoid becoming infected with the cold or flu virus is to wash your hands frequently with soap and water or alcohol-based hand sanitizer.
Other tips for staying healthy during cold and flu season include:
Get a flu shot. This is the one of the most effective ways to prevent influenza.
Regularly clean your desk, phone and computer keyboard and mouse — at home and at the office — with disinfectant sprays or wipes.
Stay home if you're sick. Don't expose others to your germs by dragging yourself to the office, theater or PTA meeting.
Hand washing: A simple way to prevent infection
Hand washing is a simple habit that can help keep you healthy. Learn about the benefits of good hand hygiene, as well as when to wash your hands and how to clean them properly.
Hand washing is a simple habit — one that requires minimal training and no special equipment. Yet it's one of the best ways to avoid getting sick. This simple habit requires only soap and warm water or an alcohol-based hand sanitizer — a cleanser that doesn't require water. Do you know the benefits of good hand hygiene and when and how to wash your hands properly?
The dangers of not washing your hands
Despite the proven health benefits of hand washing, many people don't practice this habit as often as they should — even after using the bathroom. Throughout the day you accumulate germs on your hands from a variety of sources, such as direct contact with people, contaminated surfaces, foods, even animals and animal waste. If you don't wash your hands frequently enough, you can infect yourself with these germs by touching your eyes, nose or mouth. And you can spread these germs to others by touching them or by touching surfaces that they also touch, such as doorknobs.
Infectious diseases commonly spread through hand-to-hand contact include the common cold, flu and several gastrointestinal disorders, such as infectious diarrhea. While most people will get over a cold, the flu is much more serious. Some people with the flu, particularly older adults and people with chronic medical problems, can develop pneumonia. The combination of the flu and pneumonia, in fact, is the seventh leading cause of death among Americans.
Inadequate hand hygiene also contributes to food-related illnesses, such as salmonella and E. coli infection. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, as many as 76 million Americans contract a food-borne illness each year. Of these, about 5,000 die as a result of their illness. Others experience the annoying symptoms of nausea, vomiting and diarrhea.
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Proper hand-washing techniques
Good hand-washing techniques include washing your hands with soap and water or using an alcohol-based hand sanitizer. Antimicrobial wipes or towelettes are just as effective as soap and water in cleaning your hands but aren't as good as alcohol-based sanitizers.
Antibacterial soaps have become increasingly popular in recent years. However, these soaps are no more effective at killing germs than are regular soap and water. Using these soaps may lead to the development of bacteria that are resistant to the products' antimicrobial agents — making it even harder to kill these germs in the future. In general, regular soap is fine. The combination of scrubbing your hands with soap — antibacterial or not — and rinsing them with water loosens and removes bacteria from your hands.
Proper hand washing with soap and water
Follow these instructions for washing with soap and water:
Wet your hands with warm, running water and apply liquid or clean bar soap. Lather well.
Rub your hands vigorously together for at least 15 seconds.
Scrub all surfaces, including the backs of your hands, wrists, between your fingers and under your fingernails.
Rinse well.
Dry your hands with a clean or disposable towel.
Use a towel to turn off the faucet.
Proper use of an alcohol-based hand sanitizer
Alcohol-based hand sanitizers — which don't require water — are an excellent alternative to hand washing, particularly when soap and water aren't available. They're actually more effective than soap and water in killing bacteria and viruses that cause disease. Commercially prepared hand sanitizers contain ingredients that help prevent skin dryness. Using these products can result in less skin dryness and irritation than hand washing.
Not all hand sanitizers are created equal, though. Some "waterless" hand sanitizers don't contain alcohol. Use only the alcohol-based products.
To use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer:
Apply about 1/2 tsp of the product to the palm of your hand.
Rub your hands together, covering all surfaces of your hands, until they're dry.
If your hands are visibly dirty, however, wash with soap and water rather than a sanitizer.
When should you wash your hands?
Although it's impossible to keep your bare hands germ-free, times exist when it's critical to wash your hands to limit the transfer of bacteria, viruses and other microbes.
Always wash your hands:
After using the bathroom
After changing a diaper — wash the diaper-wearer's hands, too
After touching animals or animal waste
Before and after preparing food, especially before and immediately after handling raw meat, poultry or fish
Before eating
After blowing your nose
After coughing or sneezing into your hands
Before and after treating wounds or cuts
Before and after touching a sick or injured person
After handling garbage
Before inserting or removing contact lenses
When using public restrooms, such as those in airports, train stations, bus stations and restaurants.
Kids need clean hands, too
You can help your children avoid getting sick by insisting that they wash their hands properly and frequently. To get kids into the habit, teach by example. Wash your hands with your children and supervise their hand washing. Place hand-washing reminders at children's eye level, such as a chart by the bathroom sink for children to mark every time they wash their hands. Tell your children to wash their hands for as long as it takes them to sing their ABCs, "Row, Row, Row Your Boat" or the "Happy Birthday" song. This works especially well with younger children, who may rush when washing their hands.
Older children and adolescents also can use alcohol-based hand sanitizers. Younger children can use them, too — with an adult's help. Just make sure the sanitizer has completely dried before your child touches anything. This will avoid ingestion of alcohol from hand-to-mouth contact. Store the container safely away after use.
Hand washing is especially important for children who attend daycare. Children in daycare are at greater risk of gastrointestinal diseases, which can easily spread to family members and others in the community.
To protect your child's health, be sure your daycare provider promotes sound hygiene, including frequent hand washing or use of alcohol-based hand sanitizers. Ask whether the children are required to wash their hands several times a day — not just before meals. And make sure the sink is low enough for children to use, or that it has a stool underneath so that children can reach it. Note, too, whether diapering areas are cleaned after each use and whether eating and diapering areas are well separated.
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A simple way to stay healthy
Hand washing doesn't take much time or effort, but it offers great rewards in terms of preventing illness. Resolve today to adopt this simple habit as a way to help protect your health.
- posted on 09/06/2007
thanks for ahui.:)
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3.女儿的进步
女儿三月份出生,小雅就开始休假,满了6个月。九月初,小雅必须回到学校上班,我的宝贝女儿便由爷爷奶奶看护。因为女儿一直吃奶水,早晨小雅起床喂她,中午奶奶喂女儿奶粉,晚上小雅回来再喂奶水。
小雅在单位很想女儿,经常给家里打电话询问。开始的两天,女儿尚没有什么大的反应。大家都知道小孩子的成长是个渐变的过程,但如果注意观察,还是在某一天会发现某些突变的事例。
小雅工作一整天,回到家很累,吃过晚餐,就躺在床上休息。小雅迷迷糊糊地快睡了,女儿躺在小雅身边,我靠在床头看书。这时候女儿忽然间想要吃奶,于是她便用力地翻过身来,趴在了床上。小雅的乳房远远地超过了可以够到的程度,女儿先是抬起头,看见了妈妈的乳房,然后奔着奶头的方向用尽了所有的力气,女儿的脸憋得通红,可是她抬头持续不了多长时间,没够到奶水,女儿又重重地趴在床上。第二次,女儿再试图够到乳房,依旧失败。我看见了女儿为吃奶而全力以赴的场景,很感动,婴儿求生存的欲望真强烈。女儿再试了一次,仍旧不成功,这时候她开始哭起来。女儿的哭声对小雅最有效,她立刻就醒了。小雅侧过身子,女儿吃起奶水来,吃了奶水,女儿就获得胜利,她非常高兴,不时地停下来看着我笑。
女儿已经能够意识到妈妈的存在与否了,或者说,她已经彻底认识了妈妈。小雅开学的前两天,她回来或者不回来对女儿影响一点儿也不大,只要有人陪着她玩,看起来女儿不在乎是不是有个妈妈。
第三天,情况急转直下。小雅加了一会儿班,回家比平时有些晚。或许女儿有看不见的生物钟,她感觉到,过了时间妈妈还不在,于是就开始大哭。爷爷抱着不行,奶奶抱着也不行,女儿在小区里看见有梳着长头发的女人就哭,因为她可能把别人当成了自己的妈妈。小雅回了家,女儿钻进了妈妈的怀里,就开始笑起来。
每天我进屋的第一件事就是抱抱女儿,看见女儿眼角还挂着泪珠。走到小雅跟前,对着女儿说,“宝宝,爸爸抱抱。”说完就把女儿接过来,这一接不要紧,女儿把嘴撇扁了,然后就开始大哭。女儿对着妈妈的方向,张开两只小手,目的就是要奔过去。我抱不行,奶奶抱不行,爷爷抱更不行,女儿只要妈妈。接下来的几天,晚上女儿就赖着妈妈,谁抱都不行。当然,这也是好事儿,把我从小雅的监管下解脱出来。周末的两天,女儿有些轻微的感冒,小雅加班,有时候看到女儿莫名其妙地就哭起来,猜测她可能是想妈妈了。女儿偶尔有鼻涕流出来,又哭,忽然间想到,一个婴儿要是没有母亲,该是多么地可怜。
看央视二台《经济与法》节目,武汉的一对夫妇早产了三胞胎,医院给放进温室里看护,结果用氧过量。用氧过量会导致提前生育的婴儿视网膜超常生长,最后致盲。几个月后,家里人其中的一个男婴视力发育不好,到医院检查,被证明为盲童。夫妇俩人跑北京跑上海给孩子求医,均无果而终。小男孩已经四岁了,但是永远地失去了独立生活的能力,他只能依靠抚摸来感知世界。那个父亲曾对医生祈求说,“如果能用我的两只眼睛对换来儿子的光明,我愿意奉献自己的双眼。我都三十多了,该看的都看了,可是我儿子还小,他一直都没见到爸爸和妈妈是什么样子的,对孩子来说,这不平等。”
我看得很心酸。回到床上,一遍又一遍地亲吻我的女儿,但愿上帝保佑她,健健康康地长大成人。
2007/9/6
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 09/06/2007
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 09/06/2007
好漂亮的宝宝!眼睛好大! - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 09/07/2007
穆清已经长成一个好漂亮的小姑娘了。:) - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 09/08/2007
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 09/16/2007
- posted on 10/23/2007
明星清清
女儿现在是小区里的明星。
白天她是绝不喜欢呆在房间里的,她喜欢户外的一切,于是爷爷奶奶只好把她装进车里,在小区或者公园里散步。女儿在自然的环境下开心极了,总是满面笑容。
女儿喜欢笑,无论见了什么人,她都会笑,她的笑脸加上她的大眼睛赢得了街坊邻居的欢心。有个魏伯伯,只要看见了女儿,就要过来抱抱,他还经常亲吻我女儿的小脚丫,他说,“这个小孩儿,太可爱了,让人欢喜个不够。”
对面楼有个叫洋洋的小女孩,大约三岁左右的样子,只要见到了女儿,便飞快地跑过来,她就喜欢和女儿玩。昨天洋洋感冒了,她奶奶不让她接触清清,拦着她不让她靠前,洋洋就喊,“我要和清清玩,我要看清清。”后来我和妻子推着清清去公园里,没想到过了一会儿,洋洋也非要奶奶带着她来公园。洋洋也是很可爱的小女孩,皮肤白白的,梳着块齐肩的短发,奶声奶气的。洋洋会围着女儿的车子跑来跑去,女儿也追着她看。一面笑,一面用两只小手拼命地拍打自己的身体。
隔壁单元也有个男孩儿小猪,比清清小了半月,两个小孩经常在小区里放一起玩儿。小猪比较老实,女儿则比较活泼,在地上铺块毯子,两个小孩对着面坐在一起。有时候他们还相互谁也不看谁,过一会儿,女儿开始动手脚,她抱过小猪就亲,小猪还很害羞的样子,一动不动。女儿亲了小猪的额头,接着还亲小猪的嘴呢,大人都乐翻天。
东楼也有个八、九岁的小女孩,可认识我女儿了。她妈妈带着她路过小区,她一定会四处找女儿,“鸭宝呢?鸭宝在哪里?”鸭宝是我给女儿起的名字,因为女儿在游泳桶里像个小鸭子一样可爱,我就直呼女儿小鸭宝,后来小区里的孩子们都叫女儿小鸭宝。那个女孩见了女儿,总要逗弄半天才肯回家,末了还会跟女儿说byebye。
女儿爱笑是她广聚人缘的直接原因,隔壁的一个小男孩很少喜欢笑,这样我看小区里的大人孩子们喜欢他的就少。女儿不言语,也给我最直接的启示,笑比不笑好。一天到晚板着脸,好像别人欠钱了似的,这样的人给人的第一印象也不好,肯定不会受欢迎。
我支持女儿到人群里去玩,孩子从小就要合群,也要潜移默化地培养集体主义意识,以我这半生的经验来看,一个人,如果没有个性,可以生活下去,但是一个缺乏了集体观念的人,生活下去常常很痛苦。女儿在小区里,上能接触到老的,下能接触到比她还小的婴儿,她讨人喜欢,大家也都喜欢她,这样很好。
2007/10/23
- posted on 10/23/2007
爱自然的女儿
女儿爱自然,这个是最令我欣喜的。
周末我和小雅都休假,赶上天气好,就带女儿去小公园里散步。天气晴朗,城市里难得看见蓝天和白云。天气好,人的心情也随着好,开朗,舒畅。道家常讲的“天人合一”,我总是觉得非常有道理,人就是天造的,于是一个人的心情便也和天气紧密相联系。阴雨天的时候,人就常常郁闷。
女儿的心情也好,一逗她,她就笑起来,笑起来那胖脸蛋儿上还隐约有两个酒窝。
尽管已经临近十一月份,只要天气好,勤劳的蝴蝶和蜜蜂还是会出来飞舞觅食。女儿还没有养成自觉观察自然的习惯,我们大人却是眼观六路耳听八方,这不,远处飞过来一只黄粉蝶,蝶在草丛中上下飞舞。我赶紧把女儿的方向调转过去,女儿瞬间就发现了那只蝴蝶,然后锁定双眼在蝴蝶身上。蝴蝶向左飞,她向左看,蝴蝶向右飞,她向右看,偶尔蝴蝶飞进树丛中,女儿就撑起了身子把脖子抬得高高的,去追踪那只蝴蝶。蝴蝶七拐八拐地不见了,好半天,女儿才回过神来。有时候蝴蝶飞得快,我不得不抱着女儿去追逐那蝶,女儿开心极了。
女儿也能发现蜜蜂。冬天的花少,于是夏天几乎没有蜂蝶关注的簕杜鹃花此时成了香饽饽。有蜜蜂在花丛上飞舞,引起了女儿的注意,女儿依旧是目不转睛,蜜蜂飞到哪里,她就看到哪里。女儿对这个多姿多彩的世界一定是新奇极了,还有这么多好玩儿的东西在等待她来探索。
女儿还能发现蚂蚁。几周前一个阴天的傍晚,我抱着女儿在小区门口等小雅下班,女儿弯下身子对着墙壁看个不停,我一看,才知道原来是蚂蚁在搬家。蚂蚁们排着长长的队伍,乱而有序,南来北往的,好不热闹。女儿看得入了神,我喊,“鸭宝,清清,清清”,她都听不见。女儿一定是在想,这些小东西都在忙什么呢?
因为花朵艳丽,女儿对色彩浓烈的美人蕉花可感兴趣了。抱着她凑近花朵,她先是定睛研究一番,接着就伸出小手去够,而且还有够不到不罢休的架势。我让她摸了两次,她顺手拽下来几个花瓣,小雅后来制止女儿再有类似行为,她说不能破坏公物,另外小区内的花朵上也有毒,园丁经常撒药的。
女儿在自然里雀跃不止,我希望女儿永远爱自然。
2007/10/23
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 10/25/2007
qinggang, thanks for sharing your writing.
医生滥用antibiotic是对全人类的不负责任。(不是说你孩子的情况,是一般来说)。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 10/26/2007
moab wrote:
qinggang, thanks for sharing your writing.
医生滥用antibiotic是对全人类的不负责任。(不是说你孩子的情况,是一般来说)。
谢谢摩押。
国内医院全部使用抗生素类药物,基本没有例外。达到令外国人震惊的程度。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 10/26/2007
其实国外的医生这样的也不少。这个问题没有国界。
我的网名比较难找到相配的中文,曾经想做一个中文的印章,冥思苦想了一个莫爱我,音是近了,却又有自恋的倾向。所以就还用moab好了。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 10/26/2007
青岗女儿的像好可爱呀!不过好象有年龄守恒定律来起作用;青岗变年轻了不少,女儿则长大了许多。 - posted on 10/26/2007
谢风子。我还变年轻了?no,never for ever.:)
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私心
孩子成长期间的变化是微妙的,但也是有迹可寻的。观察女儿的成长动向,是一件很令人有趣儿的事儿。我一直主张生活就是艺术,力求过好每一天,女儿出生后,欣赏她成长的快乐就是我生活的一项主要内容。
女儿到了晚上非常依恋妈妈,这个是很早以前就有所表现的了。小雅每天下班的时候,天色已经全黑。只要到了固定时间,女儿便急着要爷爷奶奶推车到小区门口等待妈妈。女儿甚至认得了妻子搭乘的班车,车一停,小雅一出现,女儿便如小鸟一样振翅欲飞,两个小胳膊忽闪忽闪,恨不得真的能飞到小雅怀里。女儿的兴奋也很令人激动,双目闪出晶莹的光来。小雅也张开双臂,快走几步,女儿张着嘴,挥舞着小胳膊,于是母女两个抱在一起。晚上的生活从此开始,女儿像个小猴子一样紧紧地粘着妈妈,再也不放开。女儿撒娇,除了妈妈,谁也不让抱。假如我试图从小雅怀里把女儿接过来,她哭得凶呢。夜里,女儿独恋妈妈,这可以看作是她有私心的伊始。
最明显的私心征兆是今天早晨。
妻子上班去了。女儿照例起得早,爷爷放她在沙发上玩,今天早晨我也比平日起得早了些,于是便逗女儿玩。女儿身边有个不小的娃娃,她没事儿就跟娃娃玩一下,她好喜欢扣娃娃的眼睛。女儿看见我过来,就把娃娃丢在一边,冲着我笑。
我忽然想试一试女儿的态度。我把身边的娃娃拿起来,抱住,假装悠悠娃娃,然后又像往常高举女儿一样,把娃娃扔起来再接住。女儿看着我,就撇起了嘴巴,接着哭起来,还真得出了眼泪。我把娃娃放下来,女儿这才破涕为笑。然后,我又抱起娃娃,在怀里悠,女儿又开始哭起来。
这个小家伙,居然知道嫉妒了。女儿的哭声无疑表示要求我去抱她才好,抱起女儿,欢喜得不得了,还趴在我肩头啃我肩膀。女儿有了私心,她懂得了争先被别人宠爱,在她的眼里,娃娃一样具有相同于她的品性,她要爸爸抱,不要娃娃被爸爸抱。
距离上班的时间尚早,我推着女儿在小区里散步。早晨人少,有两只长尾缝叶莺飞进花丛里,女儿顺着我的手势去看,目不转睛地看那两只小鸟跳来跳去,我告诉她,“这-是-长-尾-缝-叶-莺。Common Tailorbird”女儿若有所悟的样子。后来又有一只小狗出现,女儿最喜欢小狗了,我推着女儿跟在摇头晃尾的小狗后面走了好远,女儿不时地还笑出声来。我无法理解女儿为什么笑,孩子的这些笑没有逻辑,都是上帝赐予的,大人不会懂。
2007/10/26
- posted on 10/30/2007
看升旗
我每个早晨基本都是八点左右起床,洗漱一番,再简单地吃个早餐,大约八点二十至二十五分期间步行到汽车站搭乘班车。很匆忙,如果还有几分钟闲余的话,我会顺手翻翻当天的报纸。最近早晨起来得稍微早一些,七点半左右吧,吃过早餐,我想不如带着女儿去小区里散步,于是好几天了,我不读报纸,陪女儿散步。女儿很乖的,八点左右的样子她便发出各种各样的声音表明她要出去散步,然后不是看我,就是看奶奶。
我一边推着女儿走,一边和她讲话,女儿在关注路边新鲜事物的同时,也不时地回过头来看我。女儿喜欢看我做鬼脸,我一做鬼脸,她就开心得不行,笑出声音来。早晨空气好,植物也都特别新鲜,女儿也像小树新芽一样,看了给人以说不出来的充满希望的感觉。
小区门口有间幼儿园。每个周一都要举行升旗仪式,我推着女儿到了幼儿园门口,小操场上满满腾腾的站着花花绿绿的孩子们,女儿在车上把头扭向小操场,不愿意走了。门口站着许多爷爷奶奶父亲母亲,在看自己孩子的表现,她们挡了女儿的视线,女儿看不清,我把女儿抱起来,女儿居高临下,看得更真切了。
我能读出女儿脸上的欣喜之情,她的眼睛分明不够用了,操场上那么多色彩缤纷的孩子,每一个举动都会引起女儿的主意。有老师拿出了红旗,让六个小朋友各自抻了角,领队的老师走在前面,几个小家伙跟在后面,因为相互走得太近,红旗没有平面起来。后来在旗杆底下,几个小孩放了手,老师拴好红旗,再拽绳子,红旗就升到天空中了。空中有风,于是红旗便猎猎飞舞。女儿跟着红旗看,她不晓得那是什么,只是对红色特别敏感。
我告诉女儿,“红旗。红旗。那是红旗。”
女儿对我的话无动于衷,除了看红旗飘扬,就是看那些活泼好动的孩子们。
操场上的孩子们唱着一首关于红旗的歌儿,以前我没听过,也不会,孩子们唱得很认真,她们的歌声更吸引了女儿。女儿张开两个小胳膊,又作振翅状。女儿高兴,做爸爸的就更高兴。我一高兴,就喜欢吻女儿的脸蛋,或者把女儿举起掉过来,吻她的小屁股。我的胡子碰了女儿,女儿更开心了,笑得出了声音。
女儿肯定不知道红旗代表什么,她太小。一个朝代有一代的旗子,哪朝政府都教育她的公民爱国爱家,可是向上溯去,朝代和政府一茬茬地换,真可谓“城头变换大王旗”。眼下,打红旗的政府还给她的公民们一个安定的生活环境,女儿看着红旗在笑,我却在想,希望这种安定永远持续下去,我不希望社会动乱,更不希望女儿将来生活的社会也动乱。做父亲的,现在是为女儿着想,她一个女孩子,总是生活在安稳的环境下才好,只要能安稳,就让那红旗飘吧。
2007/10/30
- posted on 11/08/2007
女儿生病札记
女儿又病了。
星期日我忙着在电脑上码字,小雅就推着女儿去商场,结果孩子回来从晚上开始就有些发烧。这一烧就是三天,而且烧得很奇怪,白天女儿基本可以恢复正常,到了晚上就烧得厉害。我想就如海边的潮汐一样,人和大自然是有某种神秘联系的,有太阳的时候妖魔鬼怪都逃跑了,到了夜里,魑魅魍魉全跑出来做乱。
这个星期日之前的上一个星期日,小雅也是推着女儿去商场,结果回来女儿稍微有些发热,不过很快就好了,我就再三嘱咐不要推孩子去商场。这次孩子发烧以后,我推测定是在商场惹出来的麻烦,商场里有中央空调,室内和外面温度不同,而且人流密度大,正值秋冬过渡,小孩子非常容易感染各种病菌。我就后悔没阻止女儿,当时只为码字高兴了。小雅回头抱怨我不看孩子,只顾自己玩自己的,自私。孩子既然已经感冒了,怪谁也没用。
我最怕孩子生病。
巧的是小雅也感冒,然后小雅说是自己传染给了孩子。小雅一看女儿难受,她的脾气也就上来,跟我说话总是用升调。
“让你拿东西你没听见啊?你耳朵不好使啊?”
“我说上医院,就是不听,等孩子烧成肺炎就好了,是不是?”
“你干什么都磨磨蹭蹭的,家里要你有什么用?”
小雅可能是把我当她的学生了,动不动就训斥一句。爸爸妈妈在家里,我更不能多说话,万一弄个惊天动地的,也不好。只好忍气吞声做边角料,不时地给打小杂。小雅一下班回到家,女儿就赖上妈妈,再谁也接不过去了。生了病的女儿心情总是不好,动不动就哭,我给她作鬼脸,她一看我就哭得不成样子。
第三天早晨看起来似乎好了,一家人都高兴。结果到了晚上,女儿又开始高烧,摸脑门,热得不行,摸身子,火炭似的。小雅主张去医院,没办法,吃过饭只好去。还没到小区门口,爸爸提议说再观察一天,我也持同样的意见。因为我知道到了医院,医生问问,看看,再抽一管子血,接下来就非得扎针不可。我不想让女儿再扎针了,一来遭罪,二来副作用大。但自己不是医生,对小孩子的病也拿不准,万一真耽误了,也是麻烦。
夜里孩子烧得厉害,不停地哼哼着要吃奶,小雅很难睡着觉。我也睡不实。女儿和父母连着心,女儿生病了,比父母自己生病还要令人难过。后半夜,我听着女儿嗓子里发出的呼噜声越来越大,真的再也睡不着了,起来看孩子,两个小脸蛋红扑扑的。小雅说一直给孩子吃退烧药,但没吃消炎药,两个人决定给孩子吃消炎药。小雅下了床,找药,冲剂,把孩子弄醒。
女儿太聪明了,把嘴紧紧地闭住,说什么也不吃药,还用两只小手把我的手拔开。没办法,只好按住女儿,不让她动弹,又翘开她的嘴巴,小雅把药灌下去。还没等把药全部喝完,女儿便呕吐不止,吐了一床,也吐了我身上。我好不心疼自己的女儿,她的尖声啼哭刺破了夜里的安静,我祈求上帝保佑女儿快快好起来。女儿满脸的泪痕,最后吸吮着妈妈的乳头安静了,还是不时地哽咽。
女儿生病的这几天,有两个明显的现象。一是上下牙床都长出了牙齿,有时候她把小雅咬得叫起来,我试着把手伸进她的嘴巴里,她会使劲地咬几下。因为病痛的折磨,女儿总是啼哭,或者烧得厉害,或者是吃药的时候,女儿居然能不很清晰地喊出单音节“啊——,妈——,妈——呀。”女儿能喊出妈妈来,小雅激动极了,每当女儿叫出妈、妈的声音来,小雅便把女儿紧紧地抱在怀里,我看着也感动,天下的母爱大体都是这样子的吧。
第四天,小雅请假带女儿去市儿童医院看医生,还好,医生断定女儿有轻微的咽炎,连带着引起发烧,最后给开了头孢的消炎药。第四天夜里,女儿睡觉不再有很大的呼呼声了。第五天早晨,女儿照常很早起来,一切都恢复正常了,我逗她,和她捉迷藏,她很开心地笑。女儿的笑,是我家里最大的事儿,只要女儿笑,这个家也就都笑了。
2007/11/8
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/08/2007
你女儿怎么老生病?肯定全家都不安宁。我从来不带我儿子去商场。我去买东西,就叫孩子爸爸或保姆看着。不过我小时候总是病。真辛苦我父母了。
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/08/2007
Maybe it is just teething. Babies can have fever when they are teething.
- posted on 11/08/2007
我大概是比较宽心的家长,孩子小时候也是会生病的,但是过后也就忘了。孩子生病的时候,我大概也着急过,但是多半用乐观的态度对付了。我的观点是,孩子病一次,对抗环境的能力就增强一些,小病小灾不是坏事。另外,我认为孩子的环境不能太干净,我从来不肯给孩子煮奶瓶,说是消毒,实际上是剥夺了孩子对抗真实环境的机会。孩子小时候发烧多半在晚上和周末,平时还是送去上学。有一次忍不住给老师打电话,说儿子昨晚发烧,不知道现在如何,老师就拿着电话问儿子,你妈妈问你怎么样?儿子说:很好。老师就原话回答我说:他说自己很好。那时候儿子三四岁。这样就度过了疾病。后来每每想起来,爹爹都说,孩子们真懂事儿,连生病都抽业余时间完成。孩子多玩儿泥土与大自然打成一片,抵抗力会增强。 - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/09/2007
阿姗 wrote:
你女儿怎么老生病?肯定全家都不安宁。我从来不带我儿子去商场。我去买东西,就叫孩子爸爸或保姆看着。不过我小时候总是病。真辛苦我父母了。
this is the 2nd time for her.
painful,worried,the whole family.
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/09/2007
Susan wrote:
Maybe it is just teething. Babies can have fever when they are teething.
this time not because of this. - posted on 11/09/2007
do totally agree with kugua.
you own good kids.admire you.:)
苦瓜 wrote:
我大概是比较宽心的家长,孩子小时候也是会生病的,但是过后也就忘了。孩子生病的时候,我大概也着急过,但是多半用乐观的态度对付了。我的观点是,孩子病一次,对抗环境的能力就增强一些,小病小灾不是坏事。另外,我认为孩子的环境不能太干净,我从来不肯给孩子煮奶瓶,说是消毒,实际上是剥夺了孩子对抗真实环境的机会。孩子小时候发烧多半在晚上和周末,平时还是送去上学。有一次忍不住给老师打电话,说儿子昨晚发烧,不知道现在如何,老师就拿着电话问儿子,你妈妈问你怎么样?儿子说:很好。老师就原话回答我说:他说自己很好。那时候儿子三四岁。这样就度过了疾病。后来每每想起来,爹爹都说,孩子们真懂事儿,连生病都抽业余时间完成。孩子多玩儿泥土与大自然打成一片,抵抗力会增强。 - posted on 11/11/2007
女儿的音乐教育
人高兴了,就要手舞足蹈,天性使然,别问咋回事。我女儿高兴的时候更是如此,两个小胳膊像小鸟儿一样,忽闪个没完。家里孩子是中心,孩子高兴,全家人高兴。白天我和小雅都上班,孩子就爷爷奶奶给看着。
女儿高兴的时候,爷爷奶奶也高兴,女儿高兴了扔胳膊踢腿的,爷爷奶奶高兴了,他们唱歌,给女儿哼哼歌曲听。家里有古典音乐的CD,还让老头老太有空儿给孩子听听,但他们明显不喜欢听莫扎特贝多芬什么的,所以孩子平时也听不着。
爷爷奶奶根据女儿不同的状态哼出来不同的曲目。孩子在我妈怀里快睡着的时候,听过她哼《东方红》,曲调还算舒缓,“东方红太阳升,东方出了个毛泽东,他为人民谋幸福,他是人民大救星……”,这首是唱伟大领袖毛主席的。孩子起床不对劲的时候,喜欢哭,听见我爸悠着女儿时唱的歌,“学习雷锋,好榜样,忠于革命忠于党,爱憎分明不忘本,立场坚定斗志强”,我爸唱得激昂,女儿一会儿就不哭了,可能我爸的意思是要我女儿向雷锋学习,不能老哭。有一天,我爸还唱过“雄赳赳,气昂昂,跨过鸭绿江……”,女儿听得哈哈笑,我爸就反复地唱,完了还把孩子举起来。
我爸妈会唱的都是一些老歌,新歌曲他们一首也不会,更不愿意听,嫌闹得慌。那些老歌他们都是在抱着孩子的时候无意间唱的,这样我女儿在成长的过程中,首先接受的就都是极左翼革命歌曲,爷爷奶奶带孩子唱歌,这就是耳濡目染,不管这小家伙能不能听懂,反正那些斗争的革命文化基因先渗进大脑里去了。
中国是有着丰富斗争历史的国家,我想这种革命的火苗是不是从小时候起就开始在孩子的头脑里无意识地成长了。听我爸哼哼的那些歌曲,也不知道以后会不会培养出左翼的女儿?我看有点儿玄。
2007/11/11
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/12/2007
你爸爸妈妈太可爱了,你女儿有福了。其实歌曲对人的影响更像是里程碑,无所谓所用的材料,记录下来的是那段经历。对你女儿来说,那些曲调就是跟爷爷奶奶在一起的日子,词曲的意义就是爷爷奶奶的爱心。以前失恋的时候听过一首歌,现在听到了还是心惊肉跳,其实人家那歌里的意思跟俺的经历毫不相干。有一段时间我有一盘东方红的磁带在车里放着,台湾同事听了都觉得有些奇怪,对我而言,也就是童年回忆,没有政治上的意义。 - posted on 11/17/2007
陪女儿玩耍
女儿每个早晨六点左右必醒,周末也一样,她没有休息的时间概念。
周末我想多睡也不能,小雅更不能,女儿醒她就醒。女儿醒了,正是发声学语的时候,咿咿呀呀个不停,小雅把她放在我们俩之间,我们两个看着她玩。
女儿最近跟我学会了“顶闷”的游戏,顶闷是东北话,就是老牛抵角的意思。女儿坐在床上,我说“鸭宝,来,跟爸爸顶闷,顶闷。”女儿就把脑袋凑过来,对着我的额头,我也上前,两个做成老牛角斗状,当然绝大多数都是我佯装失败,然后垂头丧气地倒在床上,女儿见我一幅落败的惨状,咯咯咯地笑个不停。女儿对这个游戏乐此不疲。只要我说“顶闷”,女儿便低着额头冲我来,真像头小牛一样。
顶累了,我就躺在床上休息。
女儿转向小雅去吃奶,这小家伙都吃饱了,就是玩而已。再转过来,对着我,我赤裸着上身,女儿又发现了我的小乳头。她转过身来先是看,接着试探地用手来扭,也回过头去看妈妈的乳房,她充满了疑惑和好奇的样子呢。
突然间,她俯下身来,把嘴巴放在我的乳头位置,也要吸吮起来。小雅示意让我满足她。男人的乳头不过是形式而已,哪里有什么实质内容?我能感觉到女儿的嘴巴在我胸口寻找,探索,我痒痒的,正乐着呢,女儿冷不丁地咬了我一口,太疼了。8个多月的女儿这时候已经长出了4颗牙齿,没轻没重的,咬一口是真痛,不闹笑话的。
我大喊一声。女儿立刻吓得退了回去,再看看我,以为我凶她,哇哇地大哭起来。
小雅说,“就咬你一口,你还这么吓她。她天天不知道咬我多少口呢。”
女儿胆子小,大人只要一凶她,她就哭起来。小雅哄了一会儿,拿给她一个小玩具熊,复破涕为笑。我可是疼了好长时间。
女儿成长的过程太美妙了。去大自然看小鸟、看蝴蝶或者看植物,想想都没有观察女儿的成长更有意思,无数的关注和关心最后都转化成最伟大的爱,爱是一切艺术的上帝,真的感谢女儿的诞生。人生的确是重在经历,以前看轻了抚育儿女的意义,自己有了女儿,才得其中三昧,女儿教会做父母的要去追求至爱和至善,没有女儿,这种理解会少了许多。
2007/11/17
- posted on 11/17/2007
女儿素描
女儿现在八个半月,正是最好玩的时候。
各花入各眼,女儿在我和小雅的眼里当然是最好的,怎么看这个小人儿都可爱死了。小雅就更爱女儿,只要回到家,就和女儿厮守在一起,再不分开。小雅老说,“我女儿是天底下最漂亮的女孩。”别说别人听了,就是我听见了这样的话都知道是夸张,但没办法,我也偶尔就有和小雅同样的想法。俗语说“自己的孩子,别人的老婆”,这总没错。
女儿最惹人注目的该是她的一双大眼睛,清澈透明,水灵灵的。双眼皮太美了,不过前一段有病的时候着实让我们紧张了一阵子,因为其中的一个双眼皮变成单的了,而且连续近十天都没变回来,我们想这下完了,成了一单一双。但是不知道哪一天早晨,女儿的双眼皮又恢复了原状,真是乐坏我们了。女儿的大眼睛在刚睡醒或者是刚受过委屈之后尤其有魅力,脉脉含情的,还眨呀眨的,每次她冲我眨,我都要亲她脸蛋一口,或者把她翻过来,用胡子扎她屁蛋再亲一口。
女儿配套大眼睛的是长长的睫毛。刚八个月的孩子,睫毛那么长,以至于我想起来就跟小雅说,“你看,宝宝的睫毛都比你的睫毛长?”小雅说,“你说啥?是不是不想活了?”我就不敢说了,事实上也是如此,小雅抵赖不了的,女儿睫毛继承的是我的基因。
女儿的头发是黄的,不知道为什么长不黑,我们也不知道到底女儿缺少了哪种微量元素。我女儿还好,院子里和女儿同样大的男孩小猪根本就没长几根头发,是个光头佬,我怀疑现代人的饮食安全出了问题。女儿有两个头穴,这样导致了一个奇怪的现象,在两个头穴之间的一绺头发就呈鸡冠状(tufted),直耸耸地向上长。我们院子里有一种喜欢站在高处唱歌的可爱小鸟红耳鹎(Red-Whiskered Bulbul),就有着高高的发冠,很有意思呢。现在街上流行各种奇怪的发式,其中就有把头发弄成印第安人那种高发冠的,我女儿生下来就带着这种发型,以后不用去美发店,用梳子梳梳就成了。
我爸更能煽,“我孙女有小鸡冠,以后长大了做大官。”农村就有这种迷信说法,甚至吃公鸡的时候,都要把鸡冠给能当官的人吃。
我说,“得了,可别让我女儿长大了去当官,那哪是正常人干的事儿啊?”
一个长了满口牙的小孩不会给人留下什么更深的印象,但是只长了四颗牙的孩子就不同了。女儿一笑,露出四颗小牙,真是爱死人了。女儿喜欢运动着的物体,小狗、小猫、飞舞的蝴蝶等等都是她的最爱。几天前,楼下小区有个男孩子踢足球,我跟着他一起踢,在一旁的女儿看见足球在我脚下滚动,乐得翻天了。我真想不到足球能引起女儿这么大的兴趣,只要足球动过来,或者挪过去,女儿都哈哈大笑,前仰后合的,她笑得开心,我就踢球给她高兴,后来怕她笑得肚子疼,才作罢。女儿喜欢笑,笑起来好迷人啊,女儿迷人,大人爱起来就没着没落的。
上午女儿在楼下玩耍,小雅身边还有几位邻居一起聊天,其中一个女人见我走过去,就说,“哎呦,这简直就是复印机嘛。”她的意思是说,女儿和我长得太像了。任何人说女儿和我长得像,我都高兴,自己的女儿不像自己像谁啊?好了,我前面说女儿长得好看,这会儿不是为了说自己也好看,我也还纳闷呢,为什么女儿和我长得一样,大家都说女儿长得好看,没人说我长得好看呢?
我跟小雅说了,要攒钱买把猎枪,等以后女儿长大了,要是有哪个男孩子像他老爸一样,喜欢赖在别人家门口,到那时候可别说这老爸不客气,给他一枪。我说,“到时候你瞧追咱家女儿的男孩子多吧,谁要是来,我就让他尝尝我的厉害。”小雅说,“别美了。女大十八变,你知道我现在都担心啥?以后要是变丑了呢?”我赶紧说,“你给我停,住嘴。住嘴。”
2007/11/17
- Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/25/2007
my dearest baby and my wife.:)
also the Chinese redbud's blossom - Re: 我们仨we three,a family(series)posted on 11/26/2007
好漂亮的宝宝!
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