妈妈们看到这样的note会怎么想?这是一个妈妈给我传来的,她说看到这个,她想给她的妈妈写同样的note。
- Re: little girl's note to mommyposted on 04/20/2010
Don't advise your friend(That mom) to do what's written below.
It's an imagined response from me:
write a reply note to the kid:
Dear child,
I am very tired of reading this kind of crap. Go fix your own meal and stop bothering me before you can spell correctly.
Hate whoever you want. I don't care.
P.S. Don't write your name so big in your future note. It's larger than my eyes.
- posted on 04/20/2010
How old is that child?
It reminds me one of my patient who is 6 years old, She came in for lice in the hair. When I confirmed the diagnosis and showed them the lively lice in the microscope. Guess what did the little girl say? She put her fist in her hip and very angry : " Great! What other kids would think of me? Now thanks For you, Doc, You ruin my whole life for me!"
I apologized profusely, and promised her that her life would return to normal in no time as soon as she got treated and I wouldn't tell a soul about it:-) - Re: little girl's note to mommyposted on 04/20/2010
I would be alarmed.
I don't think kids generally enjoy playing this kind of "game".
I may be oversensitive but I'd rather err on this side than being callous and regret later. - posted on 04/20/2010
did you tell her that was her little friend?
草叶 wrote:
How old is that child?
It reminds me one of my patient who is 6 years old, She came in for lice in the hair. When I confirmed the diagnosis and showed them the lively lice in the microscope. Guess what did the little girl say? She put her fist in her hip and very angry : " Great! What other kids would think of me? Now thanks For you, Doc, You ruin my whole life for me!"
I apologized profusely, and promised her that her life would return to normal in no time as soon as she got treated and I wouldn't tell a soul about it:-) - posted on 04/20/2010
kids are kids. sometimes, ignoring them helps them get mature. I am NOT saying about this particular incidence, though.
I like "weed growth" for childhood education. But, you have to constantly give them a lot of love. Meanwhile, be as childish as they. Then, they will NEVER hate you.
I believe I could be a very good parent and have a very full, loving and dynamic relationship with my kids, though I am not pregnant yet... :)
Don't worry too much. That is a repulse for the kids. Let them be while keeping a close eye on them (Keep ONE eye, not TWO eyes on them...)
:) So many worrying parents here. Don't be. - posted on 04/21/2010
You may entertain your imagination to the wildest scope about your future plans of parenthood and you are entitled to selecting any type of parenting styles, including treating your child as "weed."
But I'm afraid you may run the risk to fall into the category of neglectful parents.
(re: from my old post) Not all parents are the same.
Depending on the degrees of warmth and control there are 4 types of parents:
High warmth/high control=authoritative parents;
low warmth/high control=authoritarian parents;
high warmth/low control=permissive parents;
and low warmth/low control=neglectful parents
This little girl's note sends a signal that she senses someting wrong in her life and request for a change. I don't know the full story about this particular little girl, but if this is my child, I would sit her down and ask her which part of her life makes her feel tired and that she wants to change.
A five or 6 year old (judging from her handwriting) may have vivid imagination, or may want to test the limit on parental authority, but when she writes this way, I'd take it seriously and realize that she has the need to make sense of her daily experiences, but not to simply ignore her request for an explanation, brushing her off as insignificant. She may just need a simple assurance that her parent is being responsive to her needs, or there're more problems that need to be sovled. Reading her writing, to see she has found a way to express herself/make a request, is also a sign that she is gaining some degree of independence, which may be a reason for me to be a proud parent.
小凯 wrote:
kids are kids. sometimes, ignoring them helps them get mature. I am NOT saying about this particular incidence, though.
I like "weed growth" for childhood education. But, you have to constantly give them a lot of love. Meanwhile, be as childish as they. Then, they will NEVER hate you.
I believe I could be a very good parent and have a very full, loving and dynamic relationship with my kids, though I am not pregnant yet... :)
Don't worry too much. That is a repulse for the kids. Let them be while keeping a close eye on them (Keep ONE eye, not TWO eyes on them...)
:) So many worrying parents here. Don't be. - Re: little girl's note to mommyposted on 04/21/2010
no-----, I would not neglect my babies.
I would be a permissive parent. But, it's just an imagination. People say, which I agree on, that adults' attitudes toward parenting strategy differ from pre and post-child birth period.
So, I wanted to be a permissive parent now, but I might very likey turn out to be a very controlling parent later on. Oh, no^^^^... - posted on 04/22/2010
一次,我看到一个漂亮的小男孩,大家都喜欢他,跟他玩。他话不太多,跟他说话,他也回答。摔个大跟头,他也不哭。我觉得这孩子可爱极了。
想想我儿子,可不是这样,我儿子特别安静,客人几乎察觉不到我家有个孩子。我非常希望我儿子能大方些,在公开场合来表达自己,可是,从来没有,他总是站在最远的角落里。
一次,我碰到了那个可爱的小男孩的外婆。他外婆告诉我,她的心特累,因为这个男孩虽然小,但是,他在妈妈和外婆之间无中生有地挑唆,让妈妈生气外婆,让外婆生气妈妈,他看着好玩。他外婆说,这个孩子的心被撒旦牵住了。
这太让我吃惊了。
我马上想我的儿子,我也问我的爱人,我们都不记得我儿子在我们面前说过任何人的坏话。想到这,我就很安慰。孩子不善社交也罢,只要他健康平安,就是家长的最大的福分。但我儿子肯定没有自闭症,这是能看出来的。
- Re: little girl's note to mommyposted on 04/22/2010
如果我是她的妈妈, 我觉得她的灵魂不适应这个世界.
应该帮助她, 询问她想怎么改变..
再小的孩子也有灵魂..灵魂有时太弱. 做父母的不帮助她, 她可能会离世. 重新投胎. - posted on 04/22/2010
不会的。你们担心太多了。家长总喜欢用大人的心思去揣摩小孩。逻辑和理性加起来就总也不明白孩子在想什么。
孩子喜欢幻想,不要打破它。你可以问他/她,那我们现在就来改变吧,你给我出提纲,我们一起来变,暂时变不了的,先放到梦里去,然后慢慢变。一个想套出孩子心思的大人,要学会做有魅力的大“巫婆”。你要随着孩子的幻想把自己也扔进他/她的心灵世界。
还有,不要害怕孩子抑郁。抑郁是正常的情绪,如果不是7天四季都抑郁的话。
能抑郁的孩子,不说了。
梦冉 wrote:
如果我是她的妈妈, 我觉得她的灵魂不适应这个世界.
应该帮助她, 询问她想怎么改变..
再小的孩子也有灵魂..灵魂有时太弱. 做父母的不帮助她, 她可能会离世. 重新投胎.
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