"If you think you are so enlightened," Ram Dass said, "go and spend a week with your parents." That is good advice.  The relationship with your parents is not only the primordial relationship that sets the tone for all subsequent relationships, it is also a good test for your degree of Presence.  The more shared past in a relationship, the more present you need to be; otherwise  you will be forced to relive the past again and again. 

----Echhart Tolle <A New Earth> page 100. 

When you are transforming, your relationships also will be transformed.